Hmmm… days ago a good friend of mine asked me out for dinner, at first all seems well, she was laughing and stuff, basically being her usual self and all.

Then suddenly out of the blue… Boom!

Startedla, all that nonsense about how her colleagues and people around her could be so nice in front of her, but behind, SHIT were thrown at her.

“Why people like that one?”, she asked.

I guess that’s just the way the world works.

No point asking so much.

Some things are just like that.

… and the best we can do is just to ACCEPT things as they are.

I guess it all boils back down to one thing: The only way to find true GENUINE happiness in life is for you to be able to have SELF-CONTROL. (I know it can be hard sometimes, but that’s where PRACTICE comes in) <– Yes, it takes time.

Externals (or basically how others may treat you, are BEYOND your control).

This is what I personally believe: If you keep living your life putting a fake front just to “fit in” and “please” people, being afraid that people might not accept you for whom you really are deep down, always “holding back”… to me, I consider that person as as good as dead.

Why?

Because you’re just not being “you”.

Can you imagine how repressed you’ll feel when you’re not living life being the “ultimate” you?

Some may be a little insecure of themselves, of who they are.

Some may say that it’s because of all the “life experiences” that they’ve went through that made them as “hard” or as stone-cold as they are.

But think about it, the core of being human is for us to “feel”, not be “cold”. That’s not what we as human beings are built for.

And the moment we lose that “feel”, we die.

And nope, this is not my own little theory, I actually went for an actual course in this, and I’ve met NUMEROUS people who were 10, 20, 30, 40 years older than me who told me the same exact thing: Never stop being “true” to yourself. Never EVER allow yourself to turn ”cold”. <– This, I NEVER forget.

Imagine yourself getting up from bed, putting on a fake mask, and going out to face the world each day.

How do you think it’ll feel?

I know of a few people who are exactly like that, and their lives are absolutely MISERABLE.

You’ll feel as if the whole world is out to “get you” each day, and you having to use your mask as a shield to deflect the crap that’s coming at you.

 Uuugh. I’m getting goosebumps just writing this.

But yeah, I know, easier said than done.

Seriously, I used be like that as well, always fearing how people might think of me, but as I grow older, I’ll be like… aah too badla then. What’s the point of thinking soo much??!

Like my mentor puts it best when he says if you come across complicated, fake mother fu^kers… “screw them”.

Your job then is to find people to be with genuine friends who will appreciate you for whom you really are. (It takes time and effort to find these people, yes, but trust me, it’s well worth the effort).

If you’re nice to them, and you think that you’re being manipulated in any way or form or just simply feel like you’re being taken for a ride and taken advantage off, walk away.

Smile, don’t say anything and just WALK AWAY. <–This can be one of the hardest things to do sometimes, I’ve had several such experiences of my own, it wasn’t easy, but it can be done again… with practice. The trick is to just “turn off”, cut the line, and NOT look back when you’ve made your decision (bad or good).

People say nice guys finish last.

Is it true?

I used to think so.

But not so now.

The question “Whats the point of doing good, being nice to people when at the end of the day, you’re the one who get’s fu^ked from behind??!!”

Answer: What goes around, comes around.

My principle has always been to not treat others the way I don’t want to be treated in the first place, some call it naïve, I don’t know, but living by this rule has made my life
soooooooo much more easier and happier til now hehe…

So I think I’ll still stick to this one for the meantime

A basketball in my hands is worth about $19. A basketball in Michael Jordan’s hands is worth about $33 mil’lion.

A baseball in my hands is worth about $6. A baseball in Mark McGuire’s hands is worth $19 mil’lion.

A tennis racket is useless in my hands. A tennis racket in Venus Williams’ hands is a championship win’ning.

A rod in my hands will keep away a wild animal. A rod in Moses’ hands will part the mighty sea.

A sling shot in my hands is a kid’s toy. A sling shot in David’s hand is a mighty weapon.

Nails in my hands might produce a birdhouse. Nails in Jesus Christ’s hands will produce salvation for the entire world.

As you see now it depends whose hands it’s in. So an oppor’tunity is only an oppor’tunity depending on whose hands its in.

So now this message is in your hands. What will YOU do with it?

“It Depends on WHO’S Hands it’s in!!”

Moral of the story: Opportunities don’t come often, but when they do, GO for it…

Ok… since today is “technically” a ‘holiday’ ekeke, here’s a little something for ya to digest…

Do You Need Technical Knowledge?

It’s very common for people to think that they need to be technically “savvy” to do this, but that could be further from the truth!

In fact, I’m technophobic myself. (For those who know me well, they’ll know how ‘useless’ I can be at these stuff sometimes hahhaa.. eh sorryla I know I not so brainy like you ppl k but at least I’m ‘trying’ k

Ok anyway back to serious-ness…

Well, the reality is, in order to be successful in this, one just has to understand how things ‘work’, as in how to drive traffic to your sites and how to convert those virtual visitors into paying customers in the best possible ‘friction-free’ process.

(It does not matter what business model you’re operating right now: PPC, Adsense, blogs, shopping carts, physical products, reseller, ebay, affiliate mktg, bla, bla, bla, the SAME principal applies)

Really.

Think carefully, it has it’s truths in it

Of course, there’s much more detail that goes into how to do that but simply put, you have to understand marketing; not just any form or marketing, but ONLINE MARKETING that works.

(Ok-lah, bluff you la.. actually it’s a little more complicated than that-lah hahaha… but if you don’t already know, under the sub-heading of online marketing is fu^king a lot of stuff k, so again, ‘technically’ I’m still telling the truth *tsk tsk*)

As for all the technicalities that comes with it, what we’ll usually do is to hire good people; tell them exactly what we want, how we want them to be done and they are the ones that gets the job done, simply because they’re the best at what they do.

We don’t see the point in spending hours of our time learning and doing something which may turn out to be a low quality, third-rated, lousy-ass job anyway.

Similarly, if you’re just starting out, you don’t have to do everything yourself either, just find someone who knows this stuff; fresh graduates, freelancers or anyone you know who’s web-savvy, pay them a small fee and that’s it!

Understand that as a business owner, your primary job is to MARKET and SELL your products & services to whoever who wants it in any possible way you can, which makes you, first and foremost, a marketer and NOT anything else. I’ve found that to be the fastest way to grow online.

[Side Note]: This is only meant for beginners. When one goes to the next level, it’s a D-I-F-F-E-R-E-N-T mindset for operations and directions. We’ll leave that bit for another day.

Common Mistakes Businesses Make:

One just has to be extra creative to be successful online.

I’ll give you a simple example. It seems that practically anyone you and I know are using Facebook to keep in touch with friends, family, kau lui, kau chai, etc but entrepreneurs can actually take this a step further.

They can use it to strengthen their relationships with their customers, drive tons more traffic and bring in added profits to their bottom line. We’ve tested this several times and the results from this one simple strategy alone was amazing!

What I see in most businesses (big or small) is they have a standard website which gives information about their products and services, the company’s history, the contact information, the basic things and that’s it, their web presence is no different from an online brochure.

*shakes head*

What they don’t realize is how much $$ they are laying on the table just by doing that because they are so many other creative ways to leverage and to monetize their web presence; be it to gather leads, gather vital customer information, to sell, cross-sell, up-sell (or whatever sell they call it these days) their products right there on the web itself because there IS a way to do it!

No, seriously, you just have a think a *little* harder, that’s all

The bottom line is, businesses aren’t leveraging on the potential of the technologies we have on the internet today to fuse them into their operations with customized CRM (customer relationship management) systems, blogs, social networking sites, social book-marking sites, etc. there’s a whole lot of upside potential there but unfortunately they don’t see it.

*shakes head again*

Oh oh… my favorite show’s coming on… lazy to write d-lah.. I’ll see ya around k?

Tip: Here’s a little nugget my mentor taught me:

“If you keep working on your weakness, you’ll be at most, average… if you keep working on your strengths, you will become great”

“Greatness” and striving for only the BEST life has to offer you and not just blindly follow what everyone else is doing deserves an entire post by itself…

By not going through the stages in life following the herd mentality, not doing and following the “stuff” other people are doing… it’s something not everyone can do, it requires a certain mental agility, persistence and s-t-r-e-n-g-t-h to get through and I will be having my own say on that in the near future here… but my show’s on now, so later…

Jay…