Talking about people I have high regard for, no one beats the man’s man himself: David D. His writing style, the way he structures his words, his perspective on things self-help, life and dating, uuugh… to me is ultimately… F-L-A-W-L-E-S-S!

(Read this only if you’re into dating and women stuff…)

Content excerpted From David DeAngelo’s Dating Newsletter:

Here’s your question again:

“…SOMETIMES when I throw out a cocky+funny response, they will say “Oh whatever!” or roll their eyes or say you’re mean, get mad, or something like that and walk away. This happens not often but on rare occasions. These women are probably uptight anyways and not worth getting know. When they say “whatever” or “You’re so mean”and they’re laughing or smiling, and they still keep talking to me, then I know it’s working.

Also, when you say something like: “…Oh quit lying, you were just walking near me because you want me” and they say “No, I don’t want you” or “No I wasn’t, I was just doing _ _ _ _ _” in a semi-serious tone, how do you respond to that to keep the cocky+funny going? In other words, what do you do when they act as if they ARENT picking you up?…”

What I’m about to tell you is sometimes hard for guys to accept, so get ready. 

SOME PEOPLE DON’T HAVE A SENSE OF HUMOR. 

No, really. 

My guess is that something like 60%-80% of the population just plain aren’t very interesting or fun to talk to. 

Some people are actually ARROGANT about their lack of a sense of humor. 

These are my personal favorites. I remember meeting a girl at a bar a couple of
years ago. I was in Hollywood, CA at a fancy bar, and she was one of these “I’m a beautiful actress, and I know it” types. 

I was ordering a drink, and she bumped into me. 

I turned and said, “Don’t touch me!” She just looked at me with a “You’re a jerk”
look, and leaned away from me. 

I smiled at her and said, “It was a joke, it’s OK” (with kind of a slightly sarcastic “you didn’t get it” tone of voice). 

She said something like, “Well, it wasn’t funny. You seem like an arrogant jerk.” LOL! I couldn’t help myself… I burst into laughter. 

She, of course, got even more annoyed. 

Now, most guys would have gotten all upset, thought that they must have done something majorly wrong, and tried to apologize and get the woman to like them. I immediately recognized this girl as a person who just plain doesn’t have a sharp sense of
humor, and who is probably a HUGE pain in the ass to deal with in real life… so I laughed at her. 

You’ll notice that a lot of guys write in to the Mailbags with questions like, “I’m dating four
women right now, and they’re all wonderful, but there’s this ONE girl that I just can’t get… how do I make the one that isn’t interested LIKE me?” 

This is a curious thing. 

We humans always want the approval of the person who doesn’t want to give it to us. 

Instead of just walking away and saying, “your loss,” we often chase after them, begging and pleading for their approval… and thinking that we must have done something wrong. 

Remember, some people actually ENJOY making other people feel bad. Some women actually ENJOY rejecting men. It gives them a feeling of power. 

There are MANY women who will spend all week shopping, two hours putting on their clothing and makeup (and doing their hair), just to go out and get attention from men… so they can reject those men, and complain to their friends about what “losers” and “pigs” men are, and how they hate it when men look at them like a “piece of meat.” 

 Go figure. 

Let me give you a little “tough love.” 

Part of growing up, becoming a REAL MAN, and getting this area of your life handled is
realizing that not all women are nice people, and not letting those that aren’t nice AFFECT YOU. 

You can reach a point in your life where your attitude should become “I do not give anyone permission to take my joy, happiness, and good mood away from me.” 

When you get to this point, then IT DOESN’T MATTER if a woman doesn’t respond positively to your approach. 

It doesn’t matter if she rejects you. It doesn’t matter if she doesn’t have a sense of humor. 

None of this matters when you don’t give anyone permission to TAKE YOUR JOY AWAY FROM YOU. 

My advice: Learn to walk away. Learn to blow it off. Learn how to IMMEDIATELY disconnect and detach from these types of situations, and NOT let them affect you. 

The “numbers game” goes both ways. 

If you start meeting a lot of women, you will, by nature of meeting a LOT of women, meet quite a few that don’t have a sense of humor, aren’t friendly, aren’t available, etc. 

You need to learn the skill of keeping your power and joy for yourself, and NEVER giving it to someone you don’t even know. Make a decision right now that your joy is your
own, and that you’ll never allow another person to take it away from you. 

Dude, someone give me a hug.