Hmmm… days ago a good friend of mine asked me out for dinner, at first all seems well, she was laughing and stuff, basically being her usual self and all.

Then suddenly out of the blue… Boom!

Startedla, all that nonsense about how her colleagues and people around her could be so nice in front of her, but behind, SHIT were thrown at her.

“Why people like that one?”, she asked.

I guess that’s just the way the world works.

No point asking so much.

Some things are just like that.

… and the best we can do is just to ACCEPT things as they are.

I guess it all boils back down to one thing: The only way to find true GENUINE happiness in life is for you to be able to have SELF-CONTROL. (I know it can be hard sometimes, but that’s where PRACTICE comes in) <– Yes, it takes time.

Externals (or basically how others may treat you, are BEYOND your control).

This is what I personally believe: If you keep living your life putting a fake front just to “fit in” and “please” people, being afraid that people might not accept you for whom you really are deep down, always “holding back”… to me, I consider that person as as good as dead.

Why?

Because you’re just not being “you”.

Can you imagine how repressed you’ll feel when you’re not living life being the “ultimate” you?

Some may be a little insecure of themselves, of who they are.

Some may say that it’s because of all the “life experiences” that they’ve went through that made them as “hard” or as stone-cold as they are.

But think about it, the core of being human is for us to “feel”, not be “cold”. That’s not what we as human beings are built for.

And the moment we lose that “feel”, we die.

And nope, this is not my own little theory, I actually went for an actual course in this, and I’ve met NUMEROUS people who were 10, 20, 30, 40 years older than me who told me the same exact thing: Never stop being “true” to yourself. Never EVER allow yourself to turn ”cold”. <– This, I NEVER forget.

Imagine yourself getting up from bed, putting on a fake mask, and going out to face the world each day.

How do you think it’ll feel?

I know of a few people who are exactly like that, and their lives are absolutely MISERABLE.

You’ll feel as if the whole world is out to “get you” each day, and you having to use your mask as a shield to deflect the crap that’s coming at you.

 Uuugh. I’m getting goosebumps just writing this.

But yeah, I know, easier said than done.

Seriously, I used be like that as well, always fearing how people might think of me, but as I grow older, I’ll be like… aah too badla then. What’s the point of thinking soo much??!

Like my mentor puts it best when he says if you come across complicated, fake mother fu^kers… “screw them”.

Your job then is to find people to be with genuine friends who will appreciate you for whom you really are. (It takes time and effort to find these people, yes, but trust me, it’s well worth the effort).

If you’re nice to them, and you think that you’re being manipulated in any way or form or just simply feel like you’re being taken for a ride and taken advantage off, walk away.

Smile, don’t say anything and just WALK AWAY. <–This can be one of the hardest things to do sometimes, I’ve had several such experiences of my own, it wasn’t easy, but it can be done again… with practice. The trick is to just “turn off”, cut the line, and NOT look back when you’ve made your decision (bad or good).

People say nice guys finish last.

Is it true?

I used to think so.

But not so now.

The question “Whats the point of doing good, being nice to people when at the end of the day, you’re the one who get’s fu^ked from behind??!!”

Answer: What goes around, comes around.

My principle has always been to not treat others the way I don’t want to be treated in the first place, some call it naïve, I don’t know, but living by this rule has made my life
soooooooo much more easier and happier til now hehe…

So I think I’ll still stick to this one for the meantime